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Started Jan 05 2013, 02:39
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Jan 05 2013, 02:39
I have lived overseas for approximately four and a half years, I have a daughter to a former relationship, she turned 18 last October (2005).
Whilst it might be irrelevant I feel I should convey that when I was in my early 20's I started going out with a girl who 7 weeks later told me she'd fallen pregnant, that she had wanted a child and basically had chosen me as a sperm donour. I tried to stick around and make it a relationship but within the year she had left me about 5 times and it was all over. The wman in question now has four children to three different men (the last time I was informed).
I happily paid the agreed amount of maintenance for the first 15 years of our child's life. Due to a complex set of circumstances, I stopped paying my maintenance when I left Australia in 2001.
At the time, I didn't know when I would return to Australia if at all.
I will try to explain how the situation came about in the simplest terms I am able.
My case predated the current arrangements and my payments were worked out (between both parties legal representatives) and passed in the courts. The amount was generous (in my opinion) but an amount I could afford as I was on senior executive wages and a very healthy package. The amount payable was set to go up with each CPI increase.
My career continued to prosper and I happily paid maintenance for the next 15 years. However, then my situation changed dramatically, I hit the wall with my career, my health and emotional state were not good and I decided I needed change. I had remarried and my (Thai) wife and I moved to Thailand to live in September 2001. I managed to find work but it was at a greatly reduced salary and combined with the costs of relocating and getting set up in Thailand I was simply unable to meet the amount to be paid monthly. I talked to the CSA about my situation and was informed that my only options were to return to Australia and take the matter to court. This was simply not an option I could pursue at the time.
I have now been ofered a very good position to return to Australia but I have parted from my wife and remarried, I have two small children and a modest income and I am very fearful of the consequences I may face upon my return to Australia.
Any advice that could be give I would be most greatful for. I am morethan happy to do what is right I just want to know that it can be done in a way that is managable for me and my family.
I know people may be quick to judge me harshly on this matter but I urge them to consider that I have given a very simplified explanation to a very complex problem.
kindest regards
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